If you were to send yourself a message in a bottle from your wiser self, what would it say?

A view of the fourth plinth on Trafalgar Square, London, in June 2010

I visited London for the first time in 2010, as it happens, just a month or so after the fourth plinth on Trafalgar Square was topped by a model of the HMS Victory, flagship of Nelson, inside of a giant bottle.

I remember this sight being the first to catch my attention when I neared the square within hours of my arrival in London. The idea of playing around with size in this way (ship that is normally huge, now small, bottle that is normally small, now huge) wowed me.

It reminded me of a message in a bottle (remember the “Time in a Bottle”  Jim Croce song?).

The installation on the fourth plinth was a message sent from the past to the present.  A message about the courage shown during the battle of Trafalgar perhaps? Or one that reminds us that war is always tragic? Or the one applicable to me at the time: miracles can happen. The impossible is possible.

If you were to send yourself a message in a bottle from your wiser self, what would it say?

PS If you are as curious about interesting things as I am, read more about the art installations on the fourth plinth here.

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You have thought about this, I know. I mean, what the hell are you even doing, browsing a life coach’s website?

Don’t worry, I’ve been there too. And it’s all good. Sometimes we just need confirmation of something that our gut feeling has told us so clearly already.

So, here’s a handy checklist.

 

HOW IS YOUR SELF-CARE? (“NO” answers show you can use a life coach)

 Pot in shape of face with plant hair

1. Do you listen – really listen – to natural sounds like water, or bird-song, every day?

2. Do you keep a gratitude journal?

3. Do you sleep enough?

4. Are there, say, 10 minutes each day when you don’t need to do anything, or be anywhere?

5. Do you sometimes take yourself out on a date to do something you really really want to do?

6. Is there some kind of movement or exercise you do that you actually like, or would like, to do?

 

ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES HEALTHY? (Here a “YES” will show you what you need!)

 Boundary fence

1. Are you always sacrificing?

2. Are you uncomfortable around certain people?

3. Do people ever render you powerless with their authority?

4. Are you responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own?

5. Do your needs come last? Always?

6. Do people just walk over you?

 

ARE YOUR THOUGHTS HURTING YOU? (YES answers..)

 Sad girl thinking

1. Do your thoughts drive you up the wall?

2. Is it hard for you to stop repetitive thougts?

3. Do you believe that you are being held back from achieving all that you wish for?

4. Do you have difficulty watching your thoughts go by without getting involved?

5. Do certain people  just make you see red?

 

DO YOU HANDLE CHANGE WELL? (NO answers..)

 Spinning change

1. Do you know the natural stages present in all change?

2. Do you know when to act and when to rest during a big change in your life?

3. Is it a good thing to daydream during change?

4. Is it easy for you not to resist change?

 

DO CRISES AND PROBLEMS CAUSE ANXIETY? (YES answers)

 Crash scene

1. Would you like to have a plan for handling crises in your life?

2. Do you resist crises?

3. Would you rather avoid problems than accept them?

4. Are you inclined to see dangers rather than opportunities?

5. Do you ever wonder why something bad had to happen to you in particular?

So, now that you have a little clarity, the next step is yours.

This is how I can help you.

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